I swore I wouldn't talk about dates on here. It's hurt some feelings. However, this one was just sorta strange (for me, apparently not for some other people I've talked to about it).
So I was asked to get together at a coffee shop by this young guy who was an intern at a project I just finished up with. I'm thinking he wants career advice. Turns out he has the hots for me. I'm thinking he couldn't be older than 22. So I tell him how old I am, thinking that will help him realize this isn't going to work. He, however, becomes all the more tenacious and says he doesn't care. He asks me to dinner. After much persuading (and deep down knowing this is not going to work) I agree. And you know what? We end up having great conversation.
Now, keep in mind I already have a complex about my possible immaturity (I was told by the teen girls I lead in a youth group that I was not really an adult, I was more like them - this was a compliment).
So here I am actually enjoying my conversation with this much younger boy (and thinking "s@!&, I really AM that immature") when I get a text from a friend to go see a band for later that night. I ask the kid if he would like to go. Alas, the boy cannot. He looks at me sheepishly and tells me he's 20. Not even legal. Yikes!
I tell him this really won't work. He's devastated. I feel totally gross.
Never in my life did I think a kid that age would be going for a 32 year old. At least not one that seemed sane and didn't have any weird issues (that I knew of) with his mom or something. My age, he said, really didn't bother him. But it really bothered me.
I've dated older, I've dated younger, but never that young and let me tell you, it was super weird.
However, in polling several other friends I found some interesting reactions. Some laughed, but not all. In fact, to my shock, some actually asked me if I enjoyed my time and did I think we would go out again. Those are clearly more open-minded than I am about the situation. That much younger is just not appealing to me in any way. However, it's surprising how a fraction of folks really didn't see the problem with it.
Blog readers, internet surfers of the world, etc, what do you think? Would it matter to you?